So long as you think you are asking the right questions to a thing, not only will you remain unable to see, or at least possibly consider the obvious, but continue to reveal your approach is off.
Of course, I have at times chosen to be (to fool myself into believing I was) attracted to someone.
But you asked a poor question, which makes my answer, a poor answer, when considered from within the obviously limited frame of reference within which you asked your question.
A much more fully informed question would be one based more on something along a line of the following, wider frame of reference - actually an absolute fact of life and what it implies about other, closely related areas in life...
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a13084686/is-thinking-of-someone-else-during-sex-normal/