I guess I knew that would be the response. Your reaction to
this?
For most Reformed, yes. For me, yes but this: God WILL save all that may/can be saved. He is truly, as well, not willing that any should perish.
For the most part, a Calvinist is interested in the conversation of God being completely omniscient, thus before doing anything, He knows the outcome. Some then would argue: Why didn't He do something else then? To ENSURE more or all would be saved? That conversation, then, has Calvinists, Arminians, and Open Theists at the end of those answers and looking to scriptural support. Our minds, as intelligent as we are, are actually not equipped for infinite thinking. We actually stop, every time, short and must, because we are finite. We catch glimpses of eternity but as brilliant as I think I am, I will not think infinitely. Because of that, I HAVE to trust scripture and God. You know as well as I do that God is Love. It is right there in the Epistles of John. You know as well as I do, God calls us to love our enemies and do good to them. He couldn't call us to do so unless 1) He loves us and wants that for/from us and 2) loves them by necessity. There are things God 'hates' but it isn't like you and I think of it emotionally wrought, confusing, and out of control. God hates what is life eliminating. He hates that which is love robbing. Why? Because it is opposite His nature. He can only do right and good, loving and proper etc. etc. We, being made in His image, are not there yet. We are reaching. Your story needs to not so much be what we believe, but what you are discovering about God yourself. Keep wrestling. I've done the same. My answers are a bit different and I greatly empathize, and at times wrongly present my Calvinism, simply because I don't know how to bridge the gap, nor if I'm supposed to. That said, most of us are convinced ALL who call upon the Name of the Lord will be saved, because it says so that clearly in scripture. If all my ducks are not in a row, that too is grace. For any of my faults, look to Him. His grace is sufficient and vast. In Him -Lon