You are angry because you know that you do not keep Jesus' commandments, and you do not love him.
Read how Jesus dealt with Peter after his denial. Do you love me, etc. etc.?
The Holy Spirit is the one who convicts and convinces people, not STP and Nick and Butterfly (unholy trinity?). The Word and Spirit are not guilting me with vague accusations. His conviction is personal and specific. The accuser of the brethren, Satan and you guys, try to guilt others who don't share your myopic views. By judging others, you fail to see the need for grace in your own life. Your perfectionist views might ease your conscience, but they leave us in the same boat.
The disciples did not obey and love Jesus perfectly. This does not mean that they were to ignore His imperatives and exhortations. Paul also gave imperatives and exhortations that were followed imperfectly by the Church. He lovingly dealt with people to edify, rebuke, exhort, etc.
All you are doing is falsely accusing those who take the Word seriously. Why are you not as blatantly arguing for the logical consequence of your view (rank disobedience, rank sin, grace as a license to sin, rebellion, etc.)?!