What onus?
Where's the biblical teaching? If it exists, how does it not contradict the many verses from several biblical authors in both the Old and New Testaments that I've already quoted?
"Be holy as I am holy."
I give you one guess who said that and in what book.
Righteousness is righteousness, Nikolai. We are never ever instructed to be more forgiving than God!
Seems to me there was a certain (fairly prominent) act of unilateral forgiveness (without repentance) indicated here :
Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.
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Luke 23:34
And while we're at it, what about the times He forgave those He healed like this...
And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven thee.
Matthew 9:2
And what about the woman who anointed Jesus' feet with oil and washed them with her hair? No indication that she repented but simply offered an act of worship. Where is she repenting - certainly no teaching that she did as a prerequisite - yet Jesus said to her that her sins were forgiven.
Something else, like what?
Chapter and verse, please.
Yes, we are to have an attitude of forgiveness, just as God does TOWARD THOSE WHO REPENT! We AUGHT to forgive those who repent. Jesus is teaching His audience that if they are unwilling to forgive those that they aught to forgive (i.e. the repentant) then their Heavenly Father won't forgive them either. He is teaching that it is wrong for us to refuse forgiveness to those who are sorry.
Read the verse in Mark again. There is nothing being said about repentance. This is all about the one who has been wronged and what they are to do - even while they are praying. This isn't a general statement, but a specific one clearly in a specific situation in which repentance isn't even a factor. If we had read something more like "whenever you have the opportunity, forgive", that would be different. But this is speaking to the one who has something to forgive - and only that one.
So, if we are to take this single sentence as THE teaching on forgiveness, please explain to me why Jesus and the other half dozen biblical authors that I've quoted, taught elsewhere that there is a clear and undeniable requirement for repentance?
In other words, what you've done here is proof texting. You can believe pretty much anything you want if all you need is a single sentence spoken somewhere in the bible to support your belief. "If he repents, then forgive." is the biblical teaching. If you want to say that this single sentence overcomes the whole rest of the bible then you're going to have to prove it by doing more than merely quoting that single sentence.
I think you've misread my post a little. The standard stance is something like "unless someone comes to me and asks forgiveness, I don't need to forgive - and really can't". But that looks at forgiveness as something simpler than it is. My point is multiple :
1. There is vertical forgiveness (God forgiving man) and then there is horizontal forgiveness (man forgiving man).
2. In so-called vertical forgiveness, the primary beneficiary is man since God has no need of forgiveness and so He is the same whether He forgives or not. He is perfect and sinless whether He forgives or not.
3. In so-called horizontal forgiveness, both parties are beneficiaries since neither are sinless. The offender's forgiveness may well be predicated on him repenting first (as above, that may not necessarily be so, but God has said we do need to repent), but the offended one must recognize where he stands and upon Whose grace he stands and so that forgiveness needs to be automatic - in other words, whether the offender repents or not, that needs to be clear of the offended one's conscience lest he have something of the attitude of the unforgiving servant in Jesus' parable. Thus, God says we are to forgive even before someone comes to us to repent.
Paul, in 2 Corinthians 2 says this :
For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things.
To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ;
Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.
2 Corinthians 2:9-11
Note that Paul here says he forgives if they forgive. He doesn't need the repentance of the offender - just the forgiveness of the offended. Never is there any instruction in repentance here. It may well be implied, I agree, but the point here is that forgiveness needs to be automatic for the benefit of each individual and for the congregation - because unforgiveness spreads like cancer. It becomes bitterness....
Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
Hebrews 12:14-15
So for the benefit of the offended party, forgiveness needs to be automatic - not predicated on the offender's repentance.
Take your form of reasoning and apply it to a completely different doctrine, like baptism, for example.
Mark 16:16 He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
So, is baptism required or not? If all you need is one sentence, take your pick.
Proof-texting is not a rational way of forming doctrine and as often as not leads to false teaching.
Again, I think you have misread my post. I'm not denying a need for repentance. But the teaching doesn't make it (repentance) essential for
both parties to be able to fulfill their duty (as regards repentance) before God. On the part of the offended, it should be accomplished as soon as possible - repentance pending or not. I sounds to me like you are approaching it from a rigid standpoint where repentance is necessary before either party can fulfill scripture in this issue. That I deny...and that's the point. I don't deny that the offended needs to repent, but it doesn't stop the offended party from forgiving from his heart (nor should it, and I think that's what scripture teaches).
Please explain to me then why the bible repeatedly teaches the opposite?
Why, for example, are the saints who are in Heaven and in the very presence of God Himself, asking God how much longer they are going to have to wait for vengeance?
The desire for justice need not be incongruous with forgiveness. David, for example, was forgiven but still suffered the consequences for his sin. But the issue with the vengeance of the blood of the martyrs beneath the altar has to do with reversing the evil that oppressed, persecuted and ultimately killed those that stood faithful in the cause of Christ. God never says anything about forgiving Satan - and the cry here is for the restoration of righteousness which (necessarily) will be at the expense of Satanic forces. Lest, however, we paint with too broad a brush, remember who the most prolific biblical apostle was before he was converted...
For ye have heard of my conversation in time past in the Jews' religion, how that beyond measure I persecuted the church of God, and wasted it:
And profited in the Jews' religion above many my equals in mine own nation, being more exceedingly zealous of the traditions of my fathers.
Galatians 1:13-14
I agree with you that we aught to have a soft heart that is eager to forgive others. But if forgiveness is free then Jesus died for nothing. If a person is not sorry for their offense then we do no good for the offender or ourselves by forgiving them. We enable the offender which is harmful to them and we cheapen forgiveness which is harmful to our own spiritual lives and demeaning to Christ's death on the cross. The bible clearly teaches that vengeance is God's and that it is therefore just and righteous. It is good for us to look forward to vengeance and to turn offenses over to the God of justice. In this way we defend against becoming embittered and angry which is detrimental to ourselves and to our relationships with others. But turning over a sinner to God, is not at all the same thing as forgiving them. Indeed, if their offense is forgiven then vengeance would not be sought or desire or righteous!
Resting in Him,
Clete
So how do you decide who you want to seek vengeance for?
Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
Blessed is the man unto whom the Lord imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile.
Psalm 32:1-2
We need to forgive and let God decide who is (ultimately) deserving of vengeance.