Hi Daqq
We believe similar to you, we believe the the woman is the church and also a picture of the flesh whilst the Holy Spirit is the inner man, he whom should always have the dominance over our flesh, God must come first. So in our house meetings, we believe that we are to keep our flesh, under subjection and let the inner man, (Christ made manifest by the power of the Spirit) live and speak through us. God is the true husbandman of both my husband and I, and he comes first, Christ is the head of us, and God is the head of Christ. (God the husbandman, Christ the vine and we are the branches living by the will of God and ready to produce the fruit of the Spirit in our season as God gives it)
Also, we don't believe that there is any male or female in God (spiritually) because we all have the inner man and we are equal in Christ. So either male or female (in the flesh), can be strong in God, but in our meetings, the man opens first then we all read together and speak about the things of God. Men and women. The women staying silent is also a picture of not speaking fleshly things when we get together. Us women can sometimes by tittle tattlers and talk nonsense,
so that must be kept under subjection, the the men also, and only God should be coming through.
As for my husband, he's a good man, and godly, he doesn't domineer me, he's very caring and I know that he would only put his foot down, so to speak, in a godly way. If he wasn't right, and tried to go against God, and told me to do something wrong, I wouldn't listen, God comes first. And I wouldn't take him being cruel or wicked, just because he's the head of the household, that doesn't make me a doormat. Thank God he has a good heart. As I said, God had changed both of us, and we get on better than ever.