I doubt very much whether you and John W. will understand this.
To live according to laws and rules will produce wrath.
"Because the law works wrath: for where there is no law, there is no transgression" Romans 4:15.
The law will not make you a better Christian, if anything it will make you a terrible Christian and a hypocrite. This is what Paul meant when he wrote Romans 7:9 "For I was alive without the law once: but when the commandment came, sin revived and I died".
The law made Paul want to sin. Why is that? Human nature does not want to be told what to do. We all want to be our own God's. This is what caused Adam to sin and causes us to sin today. This is why the law works wrath. This is why Jesus abolished the law, Ephesians 2:15.
I can tell that you and John W. are under the law by your attitude towards others, you are both full of contention and wrath. You do not have peace with yourselves, nor do you have peace with God.
A good son does not need rules, laws or instructions. He loves his father and wants to please him, not because he has to, but because he wants to. He always does those things that pleases his father out of love and respect for his father. It would be unthinkable for him to do anything that would disappoint his father. He knows what is required of him and lives accordingly. This is what is known as living by the Spirit.
The bolded part destroys your whole argument...despite the tortured twisting you do with Paul’s writing...
It remains Faith without works is dead...a good son indeed knows what is required of him...not just faith...and does live accordingly to his Father’s house rules...which are written on his heart and mind..having been instructed of them...