"New Birth" being the result of 'obedience' isn't quite the orthodox line, either. We cannot 'born - again' ourselves. We couldn't 'born' ourselves either. Ephesians 2:8-10 2 Corinthians 5:17
True, we cannot. However, Jesus said to His Disciples: You didn't choose Me, I chose you". For our understanding we have to equate the new birth with discipleship. Let go on to hear Jesus say this:
"For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?" Luke 14:28 (KJV)
Question: Why did Jesus choose those He did? Foreknowledge is a good answer but what did He see beforehand that He knew He could count on?
If you believe you are sealed unto salvation, which I believe you do believe that, what is the point in giving my life to Jesus, by words of commitment, emotionally brought on by some unlearned learned preacher, during his alter call, especially when I love own more? 'Come to Jesus and He will change/give you new life', he shouts! So this soul is persuaded to the alter believing for some glorious experience that will automatically transform him to be like Jesus. Need I continue? You know the routine.
So the question to you now is, was he saved in his obedience to the preacher? You are forced to say, yes because you don't. We are not judges in these matters. However, was he born again? Why of course you say. One cannot be saved without being born again, you add. To which I say, True. However, lets run it out to see where it ends. What is salvation in your thinking that is different than mine? I have it to be what Jesus called it to be:
". . . that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent." John 17:3 (KJV) Lon, what relationship must one first have with God for beginning the possess of "knowing" God? Do you know really know any one pressing into God for such an intimate knowledge? You should be able to name hundreds. Name one. Now, what is required for "ambition" in the "saved" sinner except the deposit of the same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead into his heart? We are not given to be content with 'wool' gathering ____ or are we and it isn't any of our business?
Where is God grace in all of this, Lon? What sinner saved by it, gets more of it but only by obedience?
"Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin". James 4:17 (KJV). God doesn't give grace to sinners. He judges them. Need evidence for that to be true in the Christians life?