I believe you have.
But obviously, that was not enough.
Notice...
2 Thessalonians 1:8 In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ: 1:9 Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of his power;
2 Thessalonians 2:11 And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: 2:12 That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.
Both chapters are speaking within the same narrative...the wrath to come upon those who believed not the gospel of Christ.
And both chapters are speaking of how that those who did believe the truth will escape said wrath to come...
What truth?
Ask - the - Scripture - notice that both chapters answer that as well...
2 Thessalonians 1:10 When he shall come to be glorified in his saints, and to be admired in all them that believe (because our testimony among you was believed) in that day.
2 Thessalonians 2:13 But we are bound to give thanks alway to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth: 2:14 Whereunto he called you by our gospel, to the obtaining of the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Still not convinced?
Go back a book to...
1 Thessalonians 2:13 For this cause also thank we God without ceasing, because, when ye received the word of God which ye heard of us, ye received it not as the word of men, but as it is in truth, the word of God, which effectually worketh also in you that believe.
As to what you three were exploring when you allowed yourselves to be thrown by Paul's use of the word "obey" as if it only has one meaning in Scripture, the obey you three were attempting to sort out is a function of one's day to day State being allowed to be impacted by the Word, in light of one's eternal, and once for all Standing, in Christ.
Which is what Paul's "the word of God, which effectually worketh also in you that believe" is referring to AFTER one has believed the gospel.
In other words, this here...
Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
That comes AFTER one has believed the Word of God.
God is then able to work effectively in you that have believed His Word, He is able to effectually work or motivate obedience in the Believer through His Word, as the Believer learns in and through His Word all about God's wondrous Son's FINISHED work on the Cross, in each...our stead.
This is Grace Motivation - the principle of doing a thing out of Gratitude, thus, Paul's use not only of the wording "both to will" or want to "and to do" - but also, of the wording - "of HIS GOOD PLEASURE."
This principle of service out of a gratitude towards God for His Son that time in the Word He communicated in written form by His Spirit to and through its writers, is meant to result in, in the Believer, and is a constant in Paul's writings, though he is not alone in his advocating of it.
Here it is in the following, for example...
1 John 4:10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 4:11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.
4:19 We love him, because he first loved us.
In stark contrast to that, the "obey" of 2 Thessalonians 1, refers simply, to believing the gospel of our salvation, to begin with.
1 Thessalonians 2:13 For this cause also thank we God without ceasing, because, when ye received the word of God which ye heard of us, ye received it not as the word of men, but as it is in truth, the word of God, which effectually worketh also in you that believe.