So if the offender doesn't repent, we are supposed to hold the grudge??? Sorry, I don't see that in the Bible.
Who said anything about a grudge?
Romans 12:19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.
Hebrews 10:30 For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,”[e] says the Lord.[f] And again, “The Lord will judge His people.”[g] 31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
It's not about holding a grudge, its about justice!
Do you think it wrong to want justice?
Psalm 37:30 The mouth of the righteous speaks wisdom, And his tongue talks of justice.
Psalm 58:10 The righteous shall rejoice when he sees the vengeance; He shall wash his feet in the blood of the wicked,
The saints in Heaven eagerly await God's vengeance...
Revelation 6:10 And they cried with a loud voice, saying, “How long, O Lord, holy and true, until You judge and avenge our blood on those who dwell on the earth?”
The point being that it is GOD's place to avenge, it is God who will see justice done. God has delegated authority to the governing official to enact and enforce criminal justice but that isn't the half of what we're talking about here. You asked a question that is absolutely critical to have a coherent answer too and you intimated that it was related to our forgiving others as though there were some discontinuity or contradiction between the two. And if your doctrine about forgiveness is right then, not only does it make sense for the question to come up but there is no answer! Such questions should be allowed to shine light on potential errors that we've made in our doctrine. Why ask the question if you aren't willing to think through the implications of the answer?
Forgive 77 times if he repents - these words were spoken before the Gospel of Grace was revealed. There was no known reason to forgive f
Besides, I would see it as a minimum requirement. Forgive always if he repents - at least that - but why not forgive without waiting?
First of all, it makes no difference what you see, it only matters what's actually there in the bible. The teaching here cannot be any clearer than it is. If you disagree with it, its because of poor teaching that you've received.
The reason you don't forgive without waiting is because it is unjust (i.e. unrighteous - same thing) to do so. Not only that but it helps to destroy the one you are forgiving, at least in this life if not in the next.
Further, in regards to pre vs post grace. Paul didn't teach proactive pre-forgiveness either!
I Corinthians 5:9 I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. 10 Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. 11 But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.
12 For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? 13 But those who are outside God judges. Therefore “put away from yourselves the evil person.”
And finally, it is not our place to forgive in all circumstances, even when the offense is committed against us. Some offenses are more than just sins, they are also crimes. A person who commits a crime against us, even if he repents and is forgive by us, must still face the criminal penalty for his crime for the sake of the society in which he lives. And of course any offense against is likely also to be a sin against God and we have absolutely no authority whatsoever to forgive sins against God, that's purely God's territory.
Are we justified "freely, by His grace" or because we repented?
And how can we have peace if God's forgiveness depends on our repentance? How can we be sure that our repentance is correct??
Well, the word repent has a range of meanings in this context. In so far as our salvation is concerned, repentance refers to our calling upon the name of Jesus for the forgiveness of our sin. The act of belief is the act of repentance.
Romans 10:8 ...“The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” 12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. 13 For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
In regards to individual sins, however, the word repent simply means to be sorry or regretful or to change one's mind for the better.
The Hebrew word for repent is...
Nacham (Strong's H5162)
and the Greek...
metanoeō (Strong's G3340)
There are other words that are translated "repent" but these are the ones pertinent to our discussion.
Incidentally, since I brought up original languages here. In the Hebrew, justice and righteousness are the same word...
tsedeq (Stong's H6664)
tsĕdaqah (Strong's H6666)
Resting in Him,
Clete