That's just silly, Totty. No one is saying that anyone can come to Christ by his own will if he has not yet heard of Christ. You hear of Christ, the Holy Spirit is there, you know what you have to do, you make a decision. I think you ventured out too far into the mud and every step you take sucks you deeper down.
You have no mind to the active working of the Holy Spirit in this matter of hearing, of believing of coming of deciding. All your mind is focused upon what appears in the natural....you THINK it is all you.
This idea of man having a free sovereign will is quite modern [by which I mean post reformation]
Only God has a free sovereign will, man does have options but it is God who gives the options. What is it? "obey and live or rebel and die" Well if a man obey and live THAT is God's will....if he rebels he dies and dead men do not have freewill.
But man has already chosen which option and he did not choose well....now he must die
Paul says we Gentiles were without God and without hope, THAT is man's condition....his only hope is that God will have mercy upon him...thanks be to God He has had mercy.
YOU say all a man has to do is hear and decide but Jesus didn't. He said to those who came up to fight against Him "you CANNOT understand....you are not My sheep, you are the devil's children" The bible says God closed their eyes and stopped up their ears.
People don't like it, I know they don't but they wail and weep as much as they like but God will not gather the tares with the wheat, He will not save the seed of the serpent.
I don't even say God changed my mind, that is to say my will [or yours] I say He overrules, He conquers and subdues our will and very glad I am too that He does.
"You have not chosen Christ but He chose you"...but you continue to say that YOU chose.