Seriously ... THAT is self-defense, not domestic violence. What you described was not self-defense but rather domestic abuse towards a wife defending her children from a beating.
I don't believe for a second that the Holy Spirit is the cause of you defending domestic violence and blaming the abused.
As I said before, it is a typical pattern for children who see and live through what you described as going on to condone it OR participate in it.
When I found out I was pregnant, my ex-husband stated he was going to deal with our children just as his father dealt with him and his brother. When they did something wrong, he would beat them.
The same ex also described he and his younger brother hiding behind furniture while dear old dad beat mom ... in one instance, knocking her out cold.
Abusers learn that abuse is okay when they view victims accepting the abuse.
You are just wrong on this on so many levels.
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No I described a woman rejecting God and His Word to but in. and make things worse for her children. You tried to make it ugly.
Now your trying to turn everything around with your gross exaggerations and in steal them in everyone else. Because of your own bitterness.
Maybe its that bitterness that has kept you from finding God.
Heb 12:15
15 looking diligently lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;
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You see we were kids and her defending us showed us that he was just mean. We never did learn the importance of discipline. So we never knew that God would discipline us. So when something bad happened to us we never repented. Don't you see what you women are doing to the children.
Heb 12:6-12
6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives."
7 If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?
8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.
9 Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?
10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness.
11 Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
12 Therefore strengthen the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees,
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