One ... it is not up to a *man* to discipline his wife ...
Beating is NOT discipline. It is abuse. There is a difference between a spanking as compared to beating.
Squeaky, your thought process on this is extremely messed up. When you use words like "have to hit her" you are falling into the game that abusers love to play.
"It was her fault" ... "she shouldn't have made me so mad I had to hit her". IF a wife/mother is witness to her husband BEATING (your words) her children, she should respond in one of two way. She should either grab them and LEAVE or find something powerful enough to swing at his head to temporarily disable him.
One, she should make sure he is arrested and charged and never has contacts with the children again. Two, you wish to punish the ex-wife of a CHILD MOLESTER by pretending she doesn't have right to remarry and continue her life because first husband is child-raping creep? Seriously. That's too much. Even for you.
I think you are reading your own misogyny into your version of God.
I said
Everything a woman does to her husband is to show God how she would treat Him if she were married to Him.
Eph 5:22-23
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
(NKJ)
Col 3:18
18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
(NKJ)