False dichotomy, sweetie. Of course, since you are such a nice guy/gal, being a "man pleaser" and all, not noticing the wolves/wolf-ette's on TOL, devouring the babes/sheep, "cuz" you are more interested in being everyone's "friend," you would spam an emotional "argument." Typical man pleaser, blessing the wolves/wolf-ette's, where the LORD God disapproves, making apologies, where the LORD God commands you to "quit...like men," and assert, so interested in securing popular applause in this oh so "sophisticated, enlightened, cant we all get along/hold hands?" age, which is cruelty to all, and espionage/treachery to heaven. So, go ahead, and pine, and grumble, and seek the praise of men, blowhard, attaching the "rules of courtesy" above the measure of truth, as you betray the truth, "cast truth to the ground," into the hands of the enemy, as you boo the troops, the "players," from your comfortable seat in the fox hole/bleachers.
You are starting to bore me.