What I truly did like about your OP is LOVE, and I do not know if some of that has been changed since last I looked you appear to have been forced into changing some of the post: but LOVE is what is missing from Calvinism and Reform, it isn't even found in "TULIP" for goodness sake. Calvinism and Reform are essentially over and done with in three simple little words: "GOD IS LOVE", not "God has some love", not "God loves the elect", nope, but rather "GOD IS LOVE" as follows:
1 John 4:6-21 ASV
6 We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he who is not of God heareth us not. By this we know the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error.
7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is begotten of God, and knoweth God.
8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
9 Herein was the love of God manifested in us, that God hath sent his only begotten Son into the world that we might live through him.
10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
12 No man hath beheld God at any time: if we love one another, God abideth in us, and his love is perfected in us:
13 hereby we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit.
14 And we have beheld and bear witness that the Father hath sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world.
15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God abideth in him, and he in God.
16 And we know and have believed the love which God hath in us. God is love; and he that abideth in love abideth in God, and God abideth in him.
17 Herein is love made perfect with us, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as he is, even so are we in this world.
18 There is no fear in love: but perfect love casteth out fear, because fear hath punishment; and he that feareth is not made perfect in love.
19 We love, because he first loved us.
20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, cannot love God whom he hath not seen.
21 And this commandment have we from him, that he who loveth God love his brother also.
And if GOD IS LOVE then what alternate universe does a man have to be from to come up with the psychopathic notion that LOVE would predestine any human being to eternal conscious torment when that same human being did not have a freewill so as to choose that condition to begin with? HOW can LOVE create LIFE and condemn it to HELL beforehand just because it is pleasing? The very notion is oxymoronic because LOVE does no such thing: it is contrary to the very definition of LOVE which GOD IS.
We agree on much incidentally. The differences simply make for fun debate.
1st John 4 is my favorite chapter of scripture!