It's not a lecture on life. You're a jerk. And that's putting it nicely.
Originally posted by lighthouse
It's not a lecture on life. You're a jerk. And that's putting it nicely.
Originally posted by firechyld
We might get married one day. It's not what we want right now.
Originally posted by firechyld
Not a prostitute either.
Originally posted by firechyld
What on earth should I call him? He IS my partner.
Originally posted by granite1010
Well obviously firechyld thinks it's either important, satisfying, or going somewhere. You don't date people you think are a perfect fit, because no one is. You date to figure it out...
Originally posted by Shimei
To figure what out? How to break up?
Originally posted by Shimei
Or is it more like, why should he? He is getting what he wants right now, without any real commitment.
Originally posted by granite1010
Why not? Sometimes things don't work out when you're dating. In any event, how do you propose people meet other people and see if they're a fit? You have to get out there, see what's out there, and figure out what you want for yourself. You also have to get to know people. Pretty straightforward.
Originally posted by Shimei
It might even lead to shaking up and obtaining a PARTNER.....
Originally posted by Mr Jack
Wow, you have a really broken view of marriage there, Shimei. It seems in your world, men only get married so they can have sex with their partners, and the women better hold out or they won't be able to forcing their partner into doing something they don't want.
Originally posted by Shimei
But if women are willing to have sex without any real commitment from a man, then the chances of the man wanting to get married go down.
Originally posted by granite1010
Well, you have a problem with this and I don't. So I'm not shaking in my boots.
Personally I wish I had lived with my ex before we plunged into marriage. Would've saved us both a lot of trouble.
Originally posted by Mr Jack
IMO, not living with someone before you marry them is just plain stupid. There's no other word for it. I expect it's one of the contributing factors in the higher divorce rate among Christians.
Originally posted by Mr Jack
Which is equivalent to saying that women need to bribe men into marriage with the promise of sex - which is a broken view of marriage.
Originally posted by Shimei
A higher divorce rate among Christians? Where did you get that idea from?
Originally posted by Shimei
A man and a woman committed in marriage is equivalent to a bribe? You are the one who is broken.
Originally posted by Shimei
Actually God has a problem with this. It is called fornication.
Maybe now you can go out and find someone to shack up with and never get married at all. Firechyld seems happy with her situation. Plus if you ever get tired of your partner, you can always move on to a new and improved one. Don't worry if you have kids, they won't mind.
Originally posted by granite1010
Shimei, you don't seem to realize: not being a Christian any longer, I could really care less what Christians consider fornication or not. I've seen enough shady behavior by Christians to know a lot of them don't seem phased by it, either.
Now, your smarmy little self-righteous carping aside, I do intend to get married again at some point and have a family, and do right what I did wrong before. But what I do in the meantime is my business and it's really not any of yours. By the way, you're the one who sounds unsatisified, while apostates like me, Jack, and firechyld are just living our lives and not obsessing about yours.
Originally posted by Shimei
I am just debating the issues; I am not at all obsessed with your life. You have some strange ideas and plenty of them.
How do you stop being a Christian? You either are one are you are not. By that I mean you have repented and accepted Christ as your Savior or you have not.