You're a paramedic right? Has your exposure to human suffering made you desensitized to it? A serious question here GR if I'm right in regards to your profession. If not my apologies.
God and us do not delight in suffering, but it exists, nonetheless.
The issue is holiness/justice. The wicked suffer as a result of rejecting God's provision. You are naive to think that all will accept it or that there is post-mortem redemption.
God is grieved by suffering. Using your logic, he should stop it all now, but He does not. He opposed Satan, sin, sickness, suffering while on earth. These things are contrary to God's will, yet He will allow them to continue. Satan will not be converted nor snuffed if you take the Bible seriously.
Just so I can sleep better, are you a trinitarian or what other traditional views do you deny? Is universalism your only unorthodox view?
My pet 'heresies' are Open Theism, Moral Government, deny original sin, like Finney, Pentecostal, etc.