So it turns out gays do still meet in public bathrooms. I was looking for examples of happily married gay families and found this romantic tale:
For Blake Lee & Ben Lewis, A Chance Encounter in the Men's Room Became an Eight-Year Love Affair
Blake Lee, Actor
We met in 2010. Aubrey Plaza is one of my best friends, and I went to the premiere of her movie Scott Pilgrim vs. the World. I’m in the bathroom of Grauman’s Chinese Theatre, peeing at a urinal, minding my own business, and I look in the mirror and see this insanely handsome guy looking at me. I thought, Who is this? He’s like a 1950s movie star. I’m shy, and there were about 20 sinks, but I thought, I’m going to wash my hands next to him. So I walk up and say hi, and he goes, “Is your name Blake? I think we have mutual friends. I’m in the movie too.” I came back to my seat and said to my friend Jill, “I just met the man I’m going to marry — at the urinal.” But we laughed it off.
Ben’s from Toronto and was only in L.A. for a week, but we exchanged numbers at the movie’s after-party and ended up hanging out the rest of the week. After he flew back, we were talking on the phone, and I said, “This is crazy, but I think maybe we can make this work.” We did long distance for nearly three years before he moved here.
Ben Lewis, Actor and Writer
When I got to L.A. for the movie premiere, I called my friend Bert to say, “I’d like to hang out this week because I don’t really know anybody here.” He said, “You should look out for my friend Blake because he’s going to be at the movie tonight.” I actually saw Blake when I got out of the car at the premiere. I knew who he was because my writing partner and friend Lauren had been out in L.A. for pilot season that year, and she’d told me she’d met Aubrey Plaza’s gay boyfriend from Parks and Recreation. That’s when the Facebook stalking had started. I already knew exactly who Bert was talking about.
I was in the men’s room, and he saw me staring at him. It probably seemed creepy, but in my head it made sense. We found out we had friends in common and hung out at the after-party, and the next day I had a meeting and was going to lunch by myself, but I thought, Maybe this guy can meet me.
I didn’t think we’d spend the whole week together, let alone the next eight years. I started coming to L.A. every six to eight weeks, and we’d talk on the phone every day. In all my other relationships I’d get suffocated quickly. I think distance helped because I had space. Also, Blake makes people feel very comfortable. After a couple of weeks of talking, I’d gotten to know him better than anyone I’d ever been with. We met at the end of July, and when he came to Toronto in September I had an instinct that he could meet my family right away. I remember he went to the bathroom at dinner and Mom whispered, “I love him.”