Ideal universe/best situation arguments using countfactuals are always full of holes, aren't they! I guess I just want love to win, and if they could see the love that someone else would be willing to give to that which they are, literally, throwing away, then maybe everyone would be changed by it! We (my wife and I, my church) help out with a Christian adoption group that allows the mother to continue to have contact for just as long as she wants to, for just that reason. But, as you say, there will always be those that will not participate. I guess, we just try to get everyone of them that will. What else are we here for?
On the friendship level:
If my friend was considering abortion, I'd suggest to her adoption. That would be my role. I couldn't exactly force her to do what I think is right. I wish I could, but never mind that.
And what is right and wrong, at this point, is almost besides the point.
But my role would be to present to her education, suggestion, persuasion, encouragement, friendly advice. That is what we should all do, even if we don't know the person. We should suggest to them adoption, or suggest that they do what is right, or what is best, or whatever. But that's only on the friendship level.
That is only what I'd do on the friendship level:
But on the governmental level, their role may be different. My role to the girl may only be one of mere friendship. But the government's role to the girl may be a God-like relationship, or some kind of parenting relationship. And parents often have to demand certain things, instead of merely suggesting things.
Parents may have to command that their kids to stay safe, eat healthy, don't do bad things, do their homework, adopt some manners, learn to grow up, have responsibilities, and what have you.
The government may have a similar role. Disobeying a parent should have consequences, discipline. Perhaps, they get grounded.
But disobeying the government may also need similar consequences, also. Maybe adoption should be outlawed. I guess there may be a reason why abortion may be a good thing. But never mind that for now, because the chances of that is very slim to none. Hypothetically, anythings possible. But never mind that.
But one problem about outlawing abortion is that it may just increase the size of our USA government.
Republican people, like me, may just be against the idea of increasing the size of government because it increases taxes or costs or things and it decreases rights, freedoms, flexibilities, capital opportunities, and what have you.
As a friend, I'd suggest adoption to my abortion-thinking friends. That's my role. But I just don't know what kind of role the government should have, exactly, in all of this.