Category error.
A preference for vanilla is not love in the sense in which we are discussing it, it's a personal opinion and a biologically driven one at that.
Agree, but was testing it on the road before learning to drive so to speak: Can I say I 'love' vanilla? Not only that, it seems pretty egocentric. Love is 'other-centric' as far as my working definition.
All things moral require choice. The degree to which volitional choice is not an ingredient, the less we are talking about anything that has to do with morality, including love.
Agree. I'm never talking about 'choice not involved' just how/if it is part of its definition. It may be helpful to discuss what love is as well as if "Love=Choice" is accurate.
No! There is no such thing as amoral love (not in the sense we are talking about it).
I wouldn't believe so either. I think we both agree it comes from the character and is part of the nature of God, thus ours is a display of imago deo (image/display) of God. It is important both because it expresses God's nature and because as such, does the highest good (both for the lover and the loved). How's that for a definition so far?
The whole point here is that if there are no alternatives then there is no choice and if there is no choice then the action is not done freely and is therefore not moral in nature.
Isn't 'moral' just a reflection of God's image and goodness? IOW, isn't any condition (whether it moves or not - working definition of choice at this point) that reflects God's nature already good without the interaction? Let me sail this for a moment: What I 'think' you are talking about is an 'expression' of love between two entities. Another way then of asking if 'choice' is necessary is to ask: Must I have another to act upon, or can I be consistent with 'love' without that being first? Example: I was 'honing' my ability to love before I married. Granted I was honing it with others. Perhaps 'other' is the better descriptor than 'choice' on point? Thank you again for working on this. Also, if you have a good working definition of love that sort of handles and explains all of this already, I'd love to hear your or another's definition in thread (and ty). What a great thread for Christmas, btw!
There is actually a name for this idea. It's called the Principle of Alternative Possibilities which states that an action is only moral if the person performing the action could have done otherwise. Indeed, this is what it means to have a will. Your ability to do otherwise is the capacity that the would "will" gives name to.
Do you believe determinism and Freewill are compatible (the middle position)?
It doesn't however, to me, look like it is too involved in the premise: Love ≠Choice. I'm more interested in 'if' love can be defined without 'choice' in its defintion.
This makes no sense at all. Unless I am severely misunderstanding your point here, you defeat you own argument as you make it.
When you say that,
"'if' you or I had the capacity to create as God does, we theoretically can make a loving robot.",
how is it that you aren't saying that,
Yes, I realize it, but 'robot' is already both not capable of making a choice, nor loving. It'd be like saying, imho, 'rocks' don't love. Of course not but it doesn't seem to touch on the subject "Does love need to have choice in its definition?"
"'if' you or I had the capacity to create as God does, we theoretically can make a robot with the ability to choose"?
And it doesn't matter anyway because an argument from definition is not any sort of logical fallacy and love (or any other moral act) is a choice BY DEFINITION.
Exactly the question on the table. I don't ever recall any definition of love with 'choice' in the definition.
This makes no sense, Lon! I can hardly follow it.
Sorry, forget it, I was just trying to show that 'robot' like 'rock' can do neither anyway. I was simply saying that 'robot' by any comparison is problematic because "I" can both love and choose, robot can do neither. Anytime we say 'robot' then, we already have neither but people are saying in argument "robots cannot love" when regarding 'choice' but robots cannot 'choose' either so it is already built into the definition of 'robot' that it can do neither. Point? Again: I'm hearing "if you cannot choose, you are just a robot" but I'm disagreeing that one is the other. "IF" I can make a robot love, then perhaps necessarily 'ability to choose' as well, but that's exactly my inquiry: Robot doesn't give me the answer because it can do neither. Again, if too confusing, I'm not really the one that brings up 'robot.' I'm simply trying to answer the premise often asked. I don't think 'robot' is a great talking point because, as I say, Robot cannot do a lot of things we can, so even if Double-pred Calvinist, Robot doesn't quite fit. So in a nutshell, I'm 'trying' to answer to robot but may not be any better than the accusation to begin with. I'd rather say in a nutshell "robot" isn't quite adequate for either of our discussion points.
Again, you seem to defeat your own argument here by changing the subject. You do not love your wife in the same sort of way that you "love all who are God's"!
I do love her exactly the same: She is my sister in Christ. Now certainly I'm 'one flesh' which is a commitment level beyond, but I certainly do love her as my sister in Christ. It is just that as my sister, I love here with Christ in all my interaction and meaningful exchanges. He is the pinnacle and the desire (exactly the same) for every person in my life. I just don't think you can love anyone any better than wanting 'Christ in His fullness for them.'
Are you going to tell me that you love me like you love your wife? I certainly hope not! Tell your wife that and see what happens!
You are conflating 'same way' with love, between the two perhaps. God has called me to be 'one flesh' but I wasn't comparing that. I was comparing exactly how I love her in Christ to as much as I love another in Christ (granted I'm not exactly 'this' capable, she gets favoritism at this venture, naturally). BUT the best thing I could want for her, her greatest good, is the exact same thing I want for you: Christ. You are bringing some of the idea of 'oneness' into this. So the same highest good, certainly difference and dedications are different.
Further, step back a second and really try to think it through and see if you can't conceive of a moment when you had the option of walking away from she who would become your wife. Do you not have that option even now? Surely, you aren't suggesting that just because it wouldn't ever actually do it, that it isn't an actual option that you COULD do if you decided to. You stay because you want, and therefore choose to stay, not because leaving is impossible. Right?
No, not an options because of all I am and all of who she is, in Christ. "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder." It is not a choice, not an option. Prior? Sure and don't think, yet again, I'm saying choice isn't part of who we are, how we love. I'm rather and only (ever) asking if it is part of the definition of love. You could make a case that I 'can' choose differently but honestly, it is about as 'tempting' as bread from a rock. I'm just not interested. Why? Because the 'pull of love' against 'choice otherwise' is much much stronger. It seems at times, to me, Love is the exact opposite of choice to 'not love' because "God did this and I'm blessed with her" and choice is odd and unnecessary for what is already better than the other choice. Secondarily, yes, trying to find its relation to love, but specifically not on the = level. That is all I'm questioning. I'm trying to see if I can write a definition of love 'with' choice or 'without' choice. It pretty much is trying to find out 'how' exactly choice is related to love. If you followed my 'no' above, I think you can at least appreciate that 'choice to do otherwise' is just not that meaningful to 'love' between my life and I. The actually 'good' choice and not the choice to do otherwise is actually Love's virtue. I realize you know this, I'm just dragging you with me through the 'not love' discussion. It just doesn't look that important to me with my relationship with my wife. "Choices" seems to have even and less and less of anything significance to me as I grow old with her. Simply 'being' seems to be the better descriptor of our marriage over and against 'choice to do otherwise.' I don't think we always have to have contrasts to grasp something and it 'seems' choice isn't the necessary part of grasping it. Is it needed? Yes. We live in a world of autonomy from God and our every endeavor is to grow closer to Him and dependent upon Him. I believe 'choice' diminishes and that eventually there will be no 'choice to do otherwise.' We'll just love Him at that point, not desire for 'choice to do otherwise' will contrast that 10 thousand years from now (may still not be explaining this well).
Where's the crisis? Look at your own words....
"A genuine love that IS love by definition will never CHOOSE 'not love'"
Right but change the emphasis "will never
choose." That's the crisis (not exactly a crisis, just 'why' of the thread discussion for me). I can live with a mystery for awhile, just wanting to know the 'place' of choice in love. To date, 'choices' isn't really a part of my grasp of love definition.
Saying that "God is love" is not the same thing as saying that "water is wet" because water doesn't choose to be wet
Exactly, so 'as' water is wet (without choice) God is Love is the question/proposition. Is He love, by nature (I believe so, the identity principle 'is' means that), as water is wet? I've never seen a verse: "God chooses to love." We do see "While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" with the caveat "this is love," and "not that we loved Him." It isn't the same as "God chose love." Would love to see that verse if you have it. The only one I know of is "God
is love."
and/because cannot be otherwise. Treating "God is love" as though it were in the same class as saying "water is wet" would be to make another category error where you're conflating the moral with the amoral.
I don't see 'is' as a categorical error in scripture. "Is" is identity, and equals Moral by definition cannot be amoral (unless we used 'what man decides' from an awkward definition). Similarly love by definition can never 'be' not love. Notice the language is identity. I can 'be' loving. God is love. The scripture grammar on that verse is straightforward and a trait of identity. You can yet argue that choice is necessary part of love, just 'how' at this point and venture.
Thus, it isn't that God is incapable of "not love" but that He always CHOOSES to be loving!
Right, but I'm arguing it is like you and I being 'man.' We cannot 'choose' to not be man but the absence of choice for identity is not an earmark for identity. You can certainly say I "still choose to be a man" thus that 'choice' is necessary for 'being a man' but I'd argue simply "I have no other option, no choice, yet a man without the choice." If 'love" is identity, there is no appreciable difference between it and identity as a 'man' and it can help us answer whether 'choice' is strongly tied or simply an aspect of it in expression. It 'seems' to me that this is the place of choice in love discussions.
That isn't the choice! Not even for the God who is love! The choice is between love and "not love" (to use your quite good phrasing).
That's the argument at any rate. I'm not convinced God ever has an ability to not love. I don't believe a God who "IS" Love 'can' not love. His hate isn't what anybody else's is. It is simply an expression toward anything 'not love' because He cannot/will not.
Let me ask you what might seem like an unrelated question...
Could Matthew 4:1-11 have turned out differently than it did? Could Jesus have capitulated to Satan's temptations?
You are going to hate this and I know why you are going to hate this, but "no." Temptation doesn't require that I'm sucked in, it simply requires a tempter. Look at the temptation 'bread.' His flesh wanted 'bread' but He didn't want the bread from rock. He could have, without Satan's help, eaten a loaf of bread He made from a rock on His own. His desire was to say "Look, my body wants bread, but I'd literally starve! God's Word causes life (likely referring to himself as the bread of Life?). His 'flesh' would have wanted bread, but He absolutely didn't need to bow to Satan. That doesn't, however mean I'm opposed to anyone saying "yes." It only means that in His perfect nature, He cannot be 'tempted' but say no every time. In the flesh, He could be tempted by 'what His body wants' but not give in because He is God built to say 'no.' Matthew 4:1-11 It is a huge 'other' discussion on TOL. My stance is He can and was 'tempted' but no, that He'd not ever 'choose' against His divine perfect nature. Why? The tree in the Garden was 'the knowledge of Good and Evil." He knows fully what evil is and has a nature completely against it.