That they only see the man is why they empahsize the Father being IN the Son to the exclusion of the Son being IN the Father. Or they will admit that the Son is IN the Father but will redact it in its meaning.
It's time you begin speaking from God's word:
Joh 17:1 These words spake Jesus, and lifted up his eyes to heaven, and said, Father...
Joh 17:3 And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.