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Ok help me out here what does it mean? None are valid questions or statements.
Did God so love? What does that mean? The great extent of God's love is that He gave. Since God demonstrated His love by giving, what does that tell us about how God defines love in a positive way?
I Corinthians 13 tells us much about what love is not. John 3:16 (among other places) tells us what love is.
When we avoid what love is not, does that mean we are actually loving?
Let us look at another example of another set of truths we could choose to live by.
Ephesians 4:31-32
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
If we avoid the negatives in verse 31 are we doing the positives of verse 32? No, not really. We need to not only avoid the negatives of verse 31, (which as we put them off is actually a proactive action) but we need to likewise do the positive truths of verse 32. It is a two step process.
Another example is Philippians 3:13-14
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
The one thing that Paul does is to press toward the mark.
forgetting the past is one thing a negative, reaching forth unto those things which are before is another thing, a positive thing
Forgetting the past is not all there is, we must likewise do the positive of reaching forward.
God not only tells us what to avoid but He also tells us what positive thing we can do
Ephesians 4:25 is another one Put away lying, tell the truth
God instructs us fully by His words. We as parents do not always act so wisely in instructing our children, we say, "stop that" but do not tell our children what to do in place of that negative behavior.
God tells us how he "so loved" He so loved that He gave.
Anyone and everyone has the potential to love, all they have to do is give of themselves.