But if a person does not accept this supposed offer of the gift, then they do not receive life and God's grace?
Sounds totally conditional to me . . .
I suspect that getting through to you is hopeless - you assert the same misreading of Calvinist ideas into those same passages the Calvinist does.
But I'll give it a shot - I have decided to.
Your notion of a condition is the only condition man is capable of meeting - deciding to believe despite his nature not to.
As blind as you have rendered yourself by your having decided to believe in a teaching contrary to the obvious as to what faith actually is, the fact of the matter is that all faith is, is a decision to believe a thing or in a thing.
You log on here in your belief you have a right to, and so on.
At times you may have attempted to log on with a password you believed you were typing in right, only to find you had believed incorrectly.
That is what faith is - deciding to believe the chair you are about to sit on is going to hold you.
Romans 4:16 Therefore it is of faith, that it might be by grace; to the end the promise might be sure to all the seed; not to that only which is of the law, but to that also which is of the faith of Abraham; who is the father of us all, 4:17 (As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were. 4:18 Who against hope believed in hope, that he might become the father of many nations, according to that which was spoken, So shall thy seed be. 4:19 And being not weak in faith, he considered not his own body now dead, when he was about an hundred years old, neither yet the deadness of Sarah's womb: 4:20 He staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God; 4:21 And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform. 4:22 And therefore it was imputed to him for righteousness. 4:23 Now it was not written for his sake alone, that it was imputed to him; 4:24 But for us also, to whom it shall be imputed, if we believe on him that raised up Jesus our Lord from the dead; 4:25 Who was delivered for our offences, and was raised again for our justification.
Abraham decided to believe God against the evidence of his body to the contrary.
Acts 16:30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what MUST I DO to be saved?
Acts 16:31 And they said, BELIEVE ON the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
Romans 6:17 But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have OBEYED FROM THE HEART that form of doctrine which was delivered you. 6:18 Being THEN made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness.
Romans 16:26 But now is made manifest, and by the scriptures of the prophets, according to the commandment of the everlasting God, made known to all nations for the obedience OF FAITH:
Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. 11:2 For by it the elders obtained a good report. 11:3 Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.
Hebrews 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
Faith is simply DECIDING TO take God at HIS Word.
Hebrews 11:8 By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, NOT KNOWING WHITHER HE WENT 11:9 By faith he sojourned in the land of promise, as in a strange country, dwelling in tabernacles with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise: 11:10 For he looked for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God.
Hebrews 11:17 By faith Abraham, when he was tried, offered up Isaac: and he that had received the promises offered up his only begotten son, 11:18 Of whom it was said, That in Isaac shall thy seed be called: 11:19 ACCOUNTING THAT GOD WAS ABLE TO raise him up, even from the dead; from whence also he received him in a figure.
We each DECIDE TO believe, OR NOT, all sorts of things all the time.
The greatest of these decisions being obvious.