BH - You are stating nothing new, and Knight already addressed this too. 39 explains the sort of adversity God had in mind, God chastizes those whom He loves. It is always
to oppose evil/sin. It is always
to oppose godly goodness and righteousness.
But you pervert this issue from being a righteous act against sin and evil. There are two stages to this scene. First is the sin being done, that is moral evil, the second is God punishing people for sinning, that is righteous punishment.
Evil and righteousness are antonyms, not synonyms. But you do not make such a distinction, you are happy to mix and match them depending on how you want to look at it. Thus you say
- God seeks from us not nice words or just "good" actions but an intimate relationship, even and especially when that relationship is being refined by adversity...
That is doing everything you can to mix "right" and "wrong". You cannot hardly even tell which bad deal you are talking about by your last note of "being refined by adversity".
But God's word is only morally clear, we are refined by the righteous chastising, not the evil that we do or experience. For you, since it seems you have no problem saying that God is in control of everything, you have no problem accepting that God uses evil or sin to His glory, and that implies that if we are godly, then when we do evil and sin, that is part of the "all things" that work together for good, so we are being refined or chastened by God because of the evil that God uses to bring about His glory.
But God's word does not say that, it says that God (righteously) "punishes the wicked", the implication is that sin is bad and destructive, but God's chastening is good because of punishing against sin. So the only "adversity" that is benefiting the person is when God is righteously opposing sin.
God does not work all things without exception for good. Evil exists, and evil never produces good, never.
- Ro 3:8 And [why] not [say], "Let us do evil that good may come"? ——as we are slanderously reported and as some affirm that we say. Their condemnation is just.