If you and I disagree on something and I show you something that convinces you that I am right then I have influenced you, but I have not violated your will.
Now you're making assumptions about the will of man and what it wants.
This thread was opened to ask a question of open theists, not Calvinists.
Your assumption is faulty. The Scripture does not say that man
can if his will is convinced to follow God's law; rather, man apart from the Spirit
cannot submit. Carnal man lives by the flesh.
"Can the Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard his spots? Then also you can do good who are accustomed to do evil" (Jeremiah 13:23).
"Because the carnal mind
is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God" (Romans 8:7-8).
One is only persuaded to choose when God has given him a new heart, spiritual regeneration of his heart of stone, to obey and submit to his law. Only then can he see clearly which path leads to righteousness (the kingdom) and which path leads to damnation.
Jesus explains how one can see the kingdom:
"Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Nicodemus said to him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother's womb and be born?” Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit" (John 3:3-8).
Where in this passage do you see one who is born of the flesh having his carnal mind persuaded to see the kingdom, so he can choose to enter it? You don't.
He cannot see it. That's the point! That's why Nicodemus was baffled; he was
theteacher of Israel and you would think of all people he would have been able to see it.
He had to be born again, which is up to the will of the Spirit, not man.
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The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but
you do not know where it comes from or where it goes.
So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit."
However, its important that you understand that it is not the Spirit forcing man to choose (I see that is a misconception among OTs). Man has already made his choice (Romans 1), so God gave him over to the consequence of their folly. But when the Spirit comes and penetrates man's heart, through the preaching of the gospel, it gives him a new heart of flesh,
which freely sees, desires, and chooses Christ, turning from sin,
and freely submitting to God's law.
No forcing or coercion of man's will in any way; rather, God extends his grace by doing a supernatural work in the dead heart, which only desires to serve idols, to serve the living God.
That is amazing grace.