The thing about it as it relates to the Bible is that if you read through Leviticus or anything pertaining to Mosaic Law, birth defects were dealt with in a very desensitizing manner. To say the least.
But since Jesus died for us, such things do not matter. The body is part of the body of Christ, as noted in the New Testament. Therefore, the troubles that such people face is due to others not not following Christ. Christians are wrong, very wrong, in ridiculing which cannot be helped of one's body.
However, it is a Christians duty to treat their body well, and by extension, be true to their physical self. If one is unfortunate to have a sexual defect, then they need to be honest about what gender they go about. Otherwise, they are going to turn their involuntary status into a life long sin. If they are dishonest, they are being idolatrous and are treading on grounds of homosexuality if they venture into a relationship.
The biggest sin, however, is not those things, but rather looking for the approval of society rather then God. That is where I feel the big issue is.
I understand that people with such defects have a much harder time, but the Bible states that if one turns to God, He will turn those hardships into one's advantage. That's one of the most powerful aspect of having God in one's life.
Another thing to note is the object of secrets. Secrets are bad, bad, bad. The Bible stomps on them, because they are deceiving bits of baggage that leads to all sorts of things. One simply just needs to be honest with themselves and others, and let it run it's course.
Look, I appreciate your sincerity. But really really you don't know what you are talking about. When gender is indeterminate, what c-oice should they make? I dated a girl with no, zero sexual organs. There was just a place for a Cath to go to a bag for urine. With no breast development, her gender was indeterminate. What choice does God want her to make? She was raised female by the choice of her mother. So her gender was decided culturally, for her.
And you don't understand hermaphrodites at all if you think there is a choice. We aren't talking transgender, which is a much more confusing of an issue. This is totally off track from the original post so if we need to chat more, pm me.
I appreciate there being at least one person on here that can disagree and srill discuss things honestly and somewhat fairly.