I'm going to use an analogy from a different theological discussion to show you how you are misinterpreting Scripture.
1. A man marries a woman without giving her a choice and, after bringing her to his home, boards up the windows, and locks all the doors that lead outside. He then tells her to love him because he loves her and would do anything for her. However, the woman hates him, and resists his every advance.
This is the god you believe in. One who brings those to him who don't want to be with him. This god is a sadist, and sick. He is perverse. The God of the Bible (not your god of Calvin) is not like that at all.
2. A man finds a woman, and woos her, winning her over, but always giving her the choice to leave him at any time. She chooses to stay, and eventually they marry, and when the man brings her to their home, he leaves the window unblocked and the doors unlocked. The woman chooses to stay. The man tells her he loves him and that he would do anything for her. The woman tells him that she loves him and would do anything for him.
This is the story God paints in the Bible of how he loves his best creation, man. In the Garden of Eden, God made man, and then planted a tree (the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil) in the center of the garden and pointed at it and said, "I love you, but if you choose to not love Me, there's the door. I won't keep you here if you don't want to be here fellowshipping with Me." In the same way, God will not bring those who hate him into Heaven. It would be their Hell.
Calvin (and his followers) believed that analogy 1 describes God.
Open theists believe analogy 2 describes God.
Which makes more sense?
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