I've known three cases personally in my own experience alone.
I could give you a number of questionable calls. But if we're going to compare personal experience, I handled VAWA cases exclusively for a few years, tried God knows how many cases and had a lot of CLE hours in conferences on the subject, helped raise the standards and awareness in applying VAWA among police and judiciary. And I can tell you that with rare exception the rule remained that those adjudicate guilty were actual abusers being penalized on the strength of evidence that was more than singular personal testimony.
The judicial system is a joke. It will literally come down to someone stubbing their toe on a door jam in a heated argument that decides the fate of the whole thing.
Simply not true. If you or someone you love had a bad experience I'd suggest that either it was the rare exception or someone isn't being entirely honest with you.
That, I've actually seen with my own eyes at a trial, where I was called in as a witness to say nobody was assaulted.
I'd have to have more than your narrowed representation of the evidence presented. If you were literally a witness to the reported incident and there was not outside conflicting testimony your friend should either win there or on appeal. But the chances are you were part of a larger hearing and, usually, when its something like this the prosecuting attorney will invoke "the rule" which precludes witnesses from hearing the testimony of others so as not to taint the recollection and witness of any. Which means you won't be privy to other and potentially damning testimony to say nothing of additional evidence, from police observation to medical records. Judges hate being overturned and/or remanded on hearings. And they tend to bring a great deal of experience to their observations and rulings.
It's a complete disgrace of our society.
It isn't unless you confuse/conflate the anecdotal with the rule, which is understandably what can happen with people who lack training in statistics, analytic approach and/or hold a personal stake in a perceived injustice.
What ends marriages most typically, is the routine act of women being generally dissatisfied with their marriage and yet selling it as being something else to vindicate their selfishness.
Not really. I think you have a habit of confusing your animosity and what it drives you to think with a sustainable fact. But it isn't.
I'll tell you this: The divorce rate being nearly 50/50 is not due largely to abuse and adultery on the men's side.
You tell me all sorts of things. What's your factual, statistically driven model? Or do you know a couple of people. Because if you lived in a really bad neighborhood you might extrapolate the country to be almost overwhelmed by criminals using your modus operandi, to illustrate.
But the whole half of marriages end in divorce is subject to debate. I've read research that had the number at closer to forty one percent, when you get into crunching.
"This highest rate of divorce in the 2001 survey [of the Fertility and Family Branch of the Census Bureau] was 41 percent for men who were then between the ages of 50 and 59, and 39 percent for women in the same age group."
If that's true, then men in general are just plain evil.
Now we're back to analytic shortfalls. If all of those divorces were male faulted and dealt with violence and/or infidelity you could at best say men with serious impulse control issues comprise a frightening portion but weren't in the majority.
But no one is saying that. A great many marriages end over financial stress, age and unrealistic expectations. A not inconsiderable second is infidelity, where men are the majority but not exclusive offender. And violence runs third in, the last time I saw stats on it. So of that forty-ish percent a not inconsiderable but not overwhelming number are rooted in the sort of behavior that is mostly problematic for men. But that's a relatively small number on the whole. No blanket condemnation by any reasoned stretch.
But it's not, it's a lie that feminism has put into your mind.
Rather, your lack of particular education and information has put into your noggin a thing of no particular worth, that either created or sustains a wrong headed notion and hostility.
Lastly, the rate of divorce has been declining steadily since around 1980. And if you have a marriage that has lasted 35 years or so your chances of divorce are nominal. Most divorces occur fairly early and are disproportionately found among the young.