Look again at your argument. Notice how it has strayed from a strictly Biblical one (which I applaud by the way, even though we don't agree on what the Bible actualy says) to one that has become quite subjective.
I use Scripture as well as other examples to support my position, there is nothing wrong with that.
I already said that the existence of other institutions where one person exercises authority over another is no justification for such a structure in marriage.
I never said those institutions justified how marriage should function. I merely mentioned them as other examples.
It is not how marriages (at least not typical marriages) function.
It is how they should function though, according to Scripture.
Does Paul compare marriage to employment or to the army? Nope. What does he compare it to? To the relationship of Christ to the church.
Yes, I have done that throughout this thread, referred to Christ as an example, not just in the post you are responding to.
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Never said it was. If you want an analogy, I would say it resembled more a joint venture.
A marriage is a union before God where two become one flesh.
Joint venture sounds more like a business than marriage to me.
In a normal marriage, the spouses take it in turns to make decisions when they disagree. It's called trust. Trust has to be mutual.
And who is declaring what *normal* is? Where does the Bible ever tell us to take turns making decisions?! lol That is laughable.
It does say , 1 Peter 3:7, "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
Right after saying, 1 Peter 3:1, "Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands," and in verse 5,6 - "For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord."
As I said in my previous post, decisions are usually made together, with consideration to both parties. It is the rare occasion that in a good marriage that a husband has to pull out the veto card. The back and forth thing though, figment of imagination.
Paul says that Christians should be subject to one another out of love for Christ. He then expands on this by saying that wives should be subject to their own husbands.
Yes, the mutual submission, is mentioned once in contrast to a multitude of times wives are told to submit to their husbands.
The Scripture also says:
Genesis 3:16b
"Your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you.”
1 Corinthians 11:3
"But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God."
Ephesians 5:22-24
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
Colossians 3:18
"Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord."
Titus 2:5
"to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."
There are even more verses, but that should suffice.
This is not the same thing as being told what to do. It means that everything you do takes into consideration the other person. The wife should not go around doing what other men tell her to do because she belongs to her husband. It means that there should be order in the church. It doesn't mean that everyone is trying to be a leader or criticising their leaders or making fun of those in their charge or going around doing things that disgrace the name of the church. That's what mutual submission means. Paul is saying that the church is one body, not a load of individuals doing their own thing. Just extend that to a marriage and it easy to understand why Paul said that wives have to be subject to their own husbands.
Not sure about anyone else, but I never said it is just about being told what to do...or about having to obey any and every man. The passages regarding husbands and wives are about husbands and wives. And yes, we are told to submit because it makes the marriage relationship function in a God honouring way.
We don't find options in scripture for atom scientists either.
Just like we don't find Scriptures that say
In a normal marriage, the spouses take it in turns to make decisions when they disagree.
Your big problem here is that you began your argument with an appeal to scripture but it has turned into an argument that is anything but scriptural.
I have referred to Scripture in my posts all along this thread. I should not have neglected reposting them in that response, but did not think it necessary because I did so supra. I will seek to remedy that from now on.
Because there is nothing in scripture that says that a woman's role has to be in the home. You have basically had to invent that.
Oh really?
Titus 2:4,5 says:
"Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."
And not only so so but in scripture there are a wealth of women who are regarded as righteous who are leaders, who have their own businesses, own their own houses, etc., etc. in both Old and New Testaments.
Never at the neglect of their family though...they are praised because of what they do for their family. Proverbs 31 is the best example of course, the woman of noble character.