But I don't want to walk down the limited atonement path because it can go on and on and I cannot receive that teaching (my conscience won't allow it).
We shouldn't refrain from discussing Scripture just because we may not like the conclusions
How does limited atonement "go on and on"?
Here's how I balance God's sovereignty with man's will.
God self limited His sovereignty by providing divine enablement in us (elect). That enabling gives us the desire to seek, call and believe on Him. Now that we are enabled we can exercise our will that without enablement has no ability to desire, call and believe God. So god still makes the first move in salvation (he elects based on His choice and not based on pre knowing who'd believe) and the elect exercise their will and are saved by grace thru faith in Christ alone.
That's the best I can do.
OK, so you seem like you would agree with Total Depravity (Man's nature is so sinful that he cannot seek Christ on his own), Unconditional Election (Being elect is not conditional on any act of man), Irresistible Grace (An elect, once regenerated, will not resist God's grace) and Perseverance of the Saints (Those who are chosen will persevere.)
What exactly is your problem with Limited Atonement?
Your current position is illogical because it suggests that Christ failed to save all who he died for. You are claiming that, while God monergistically saves sinners, he also died for the non-elect, in other words, his blood is not completely effecacious to save.