ECT Hypothetical: adultery

Hypothetical: adultery

  • Reconcile at any cost, even by accepting (falsely) that it was your fault.

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musterion

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Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).
 
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Danoh

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Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

Sorry to hear, Musti; may you soon be able to move on.
 
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Danoh

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"Marriages can survive adultery, but they usually can not survive spite or disdain." --DennisPrager.com, Male-Female Hour

Geez; talk about one's over reliance on a system of ever relying on one book "about" or another for everything under the sun - don't you ever spend time in Scripture; your answers are ever someone else's reasoning and or labor.

Talk about adultry...
 

themuzicman

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Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

Not enough details to determine. Each person must follow God's direction.
 

musterion

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This situation does not involve my wife and I. It is a composite of Christian people I've read about and some I've known, but a serious real life issue nonetheless. It is hypothetical for whomever chooses to answer it (at least I hope it's only hypothetical for you).
 

ebenz47037

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I chose that my marriage would be over because of the break in trust. I just don't think that I could trust my husband again if he had broken his vow to be faithful to me. I would forgive him. But, I don't think I would trust him again.
 

serpentdove

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Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).
A repentant man will confess his sin :banana: without assessing blame to the victim of his crime—his wife (Lev. 20:10–12). If he is not willing to admit his sin, then more time is needed for restoration where restoration is possible (1 Cor. 7:10–17).* All liars go to hell (Re 21:8). Church discipline is necessary for the adulterer (Mt 18:15-17). If he doesn’t repent, he’s going to hell (Jas 5:20).

Not many escape once ensnared by an adulteress (Prov. 7:6–23).
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Our culture does not take marriage seriously (Jer. 16:2); but, God does (Heb. 13:4). She is his joint-heir of the grace of life ‘esha [fire of life]’ (1 Pe 3:7). When he shows up at the Great White Throne without her, he if left only with a consuming fire (Ga 6:7). :burnlib:

*The wife is not required to return to intimacy with her defiled husband (Deut. 24:4, Mt 19:11, Jn 10:10, 1 Co 7:15).
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serpentdove

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...Each person must follow God's direction.

The community around the couple (Jer. 16:2) usually does not implement church discipline (Mt 18:15-17); :reals: and so, the sinner is lost for good (Jas 5:20). :banana: They have blood on their hands (Eze 33:8).
 

serpentdove

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Reconcile at any cost…
Reconciliation is encouraged (1 Cor. 7:10–17).

Seek to reconcile, but only after they admit they chose to sin.
Lying to one’s spouse is stealing their life (Re 21:8); because, it’s taking reality from them (Ferguson). Our culture does not take lying seriously; but, God does (Ps 15:4 ESV, Lk 17:26-29). :burnlib:

Do not accept the blame.
Was the victim of the adulterer cheering him on
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when he broke his vow? :dizzy: Heb 13:4
 

musterion

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I chose that my marriage would be over because of the break in trust. I just don't think that I could trust my husband again if he had broken his vow to be faithful to me. I would forgive him. But, I don't think I would trust him again.

I can absolutely understand that response.
 
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