Man Saw Fellow Fan’s Pregnant Wife Texting Another Man, Does Something About It

[The Berean]

This interesting story caught my eye. At a football game a fan notices a pregnant woman texting another man. The fan decides to tell the man who is with the pregnant woman. Did the fan do the right thing? :idunno:

http://madworldnews.com/man-pregnant-wife-texting/

 

[aCultureWarrior]

The guy would have found out eventually about his skank of a wife/girlfriend (liars and cheats always end up getting exposed). I see nothing wrong with exposing them at the first opportunity.

 

[Spitfire]

He did the right thing, though I wouldn't have faulted him for deciding it wasn't his place to do anything in that situation either.

A paternity test is definitely in order.

 

[Angel4Truth]

I wonder why the guy was reading someone elses phone... that seems weird to me

 

[intojoy]

Tell me some good news

 

[Rusha]

I wonder why the guy was reading someone elses phone... that seems weird to me

That and ... I wonder if the roles had been reversed and he witnessed the man making a similar text, if he would have notified the woman.

 

[musterion]

I'm conflicted. I agree he did the right thing insofar as she needs exposure, but what if Mr. Cuckold checks her phone and breaks her neck? Unintended consequences happen.

 

[Desert Reign]

I'm conflicted. I agree he did the right thing insofar as she needs exposure, but what if Mr. Cuckold checks her phone and breaks her neck? Unintended consequences happen.

You can't base your moral decisions on what might or might not happen. You have to judge in the circumstances present. I would say that it is better to get the issue sorted out sooner rather than later. Divorce, reconciliation, whatever - it is better and least harmful to all concerned to get it worked out right away. But it isn't that people need exposure as if they should be punished. It is for the sake of resolving the case. It is not your job, as the bystander, to make any judgements or, if you do, keep them to yourself. Your neutrality at this point is very valuable to a proper resolution of the situation. You don't know if the husband is beating the wife and she is looking for a way out or something like that.

 

[Nazaroo]

Did the fan do the right thing?

Most definitely he did NOT do the right thing.


In all cases, the BIBLE gives sure and clear guidance:

Leaving aside the many possible explanations for people's behaviour,
including that hey, maybe "Jason" was her brother or son - etc.

We have clear instructions from Jesus the Christ on what the RIGHT thing is.

He should have written the note to the woman, not the man.

We are instructed to confront a brother or sister in Christ privately
when questions, doubts, or inappropriate behaviours arise. (Matt 18:15)

Only when that fails (to expose an explanation or repentence or an end),
are we then to confront that person with a witness, again privately.

Its only on a third pass that we confront such a person openly before
the community.

Now these are instructions for Christians inside their community,
and within that community there is no male or female in terms of
honour or status, so women must be given the same courtesy as men.

But this is a further step away from such action,
because the observer/snitch does not even know if these people are
Christians.

"Those OUTSIDE [the Christian community], God judges." (1st Cor 5:13)

That is, God is the God of the whole earth, and is also God of unbelievers
and God of those of other religions or beliefs, who are outside the
Christian community.

It is not under the authority of ordinary Christians to attempt to
LORD it over unbelievers or police them, except insofar as they
impact on Christian communites.

 

[serpentdove]

The guy would have found out eventually about his skank of a wife/girlfriend (liars and cheats always end up getting exposed). I see nothing wrong with exposing them at the first opportunity.

That's right. The man needs to know that his wife is a dirty hoe (Heb 13:4).

Hoe, hoe, hoe Merry Christmas

See:

Marriage: Disposable Culture

”Back When Tim McGraw With Lyrics"

 

[serpentdove]

Most definitely he did NOT do the right thing.

If you were married to this vermin, you would want to know. The man needs to protect himself and his children. Pr 11:21

 

[Nick M]

I wonder why the guy was reading someone elses phone... that seems weird to me

It seems women do it all the time.

 

[Nick M]

You can't base your moral decisions on what might or might not happen.

I agree and would leave it at that on the idea that moral decisions should be based on right and wrong, but nothing else. Do right, and risk the consequences.

 

[Rusha]

You can't base your moral decisions on what might or might not happen. You have to judge in the circumstances present. I would say that it is better to get the issue sorted out sooner rather than later. Divorce, reconciliation, whatever - it is better and least harmful to all concerned to get it worked out right away. But it isn't that people need exposure as if they should be punished. It is for the sake of resolving the case. It is not your job, as the bystander, to make any judgements or, if you do, keep them to yourself. Your neutrality at this point is very valuable to a proper resolution of the situation. You don't know if the husband is beating the wife and she is looking for a way out or something like that.

That's just it ... the bystander only knows that the idea of *one of his own* possibly being cheated on offends him. He doesn't know the couple or have any idea what is going on inside their marriage.

IF he truly felt he needed to say something, it should have been to the wife, not the husband.

It's not like the guy actually knew the couple.

 

[Desert Reign]

He should have written the note to the woman, not the man.
We are instructed to confront a brother or sister in Christ privately
when questions, doubts, or inappropriate behaviours arise. (Matt 18:15)

Two things.
I suggest that this text applies individually. The husband and wife are by choice, under God and in the eyes of the community, one person. You can't deal with the wife alone because her husband is a part of her.
The other thing is that the text applies specifically to the church, though I can see it might be relevant for the world but there is no authority for extending it. Here, I didn't see anything suggesting all the people involved were believers.

That's just it ... the bystander only knows that the idea of *one of his own* possibly being cheated on offends him. He doesn't know the couple or have any idea what is going on inside their marriage.

IF he truly felt he needed to say something, it should have been to the wife, not the husband.

It's not like the guy actually knew the couple.

I can understand your point of view. But had it been me, I would have done the same thing if it was a bloke texting his bit on the side with his wife next to him. I would have told the wife. It has really nothing to do with me feeling brotherly towards the man. It is better that they sort out their problems sooner rather than later. My feelings are towards the person aggrieved and to their children.

 

[Desert Reign]

I agree and would leave it at that on the idea that moral decisions should be based on right and wrong, but nothing else. Do right, and risk the consequences.

Thanks. I've heard this before so often. There was a discussion with I think elohiym recently where it was suggested that had I let someone live, even though they were a criminal and were attacking me, they might have turned to Christ. It's the same question as shouldn't I feel guilty when I buy Christmas presents which are not really needed because the money could have been used to give to the church or to missions and this would have an eternal benefit. There is no end to this logic other than self-inflicted torture worrying yourself to death if you were somehow responsible for all the ills in the world. On the contrary, the world will be a better place if we act positively and assertively and we are consistent so that people can trust us.

 

[serpentdove]

I didn't see anything suggesting all the people involved were believers.

God gave marriage to the pagan and to the believer (Heb 13:4).

 

[Angel4Truth]

It seems women do it all the time.

If he was her husband, maybe could understand it, but not a total stranger, whether they were a man or woman - i have to wonder what his motive was to sit there and read over her shoulder to begin with.

 

[Angel4Truth]

That's just it ... the bystander only knows that the idea of *one of his own* possibly being cheated on offends him. He doesn't know the couple or have any idea what is going on inside their marriage.

IF he truly felt he needed to say something, it should have been to the wife, not the husband.

It's not like the guy actually knew the couple.

Exactly

 

[Tambora]

So, if I happen to witness some highly suspicious evidence that highly suggests your spouse is cheating on you, I should just keep it a secret from you too?